HOW TO AVOID THE UNEMPLOYMENT DEPRESSION III
Avoid comparing yourself with people who have already secured a job. This is the second most deadly depression inducing tool after prickly relatives and friends. It’s inevitable that some of your batchmates are going to get better jobs and more quickly as well. It’s also possible that some have a GPA lower than yours and are even your close friends. That’s going to hurt the most.
So choose your comparisons wisely. Focus on those people who have GPA or grade higher than yours and still unemployed. That’s the only way to tackle this monster.
Of course, it’s a different story altogether if everyone is employed and you are the last man standing.
One of the studies quoted in The 100 Simple Secrets of Happy People regarding comparison:
A large group of students was given a word puzzle to solve.
Researchers compared the satisfaction of students who finished
the puzzle quickly or more slowly. Students who finished the
puzzle quickly and compared themselves with the very fastest
students came away feeling dissatisfied with themselves.
Students who finished the puzzle more slowly but compared
themselves with the slowest students came away feeling quite
satisfied with themselves and tended to ignore the presence of
the quick-finishing students.
Lyubomirsky and Ross 1997
What all this means is the root of dissatisfaction is your ability to compare yourself with others. Comparing yourself with examples that make you comfortable about who you are and what you have will go a long way in removing much of the man-made misery in your life.
All said and done, the bulk of your time in any unemployment phase should be spent researching prospective employers, sending customized cover letter and resumes to them, and in some cases following up on them.
I cannot lay enough emphasis on the research part. It’s very much possible that your very first job is not your ideal or dream job, and while you accept that offer, you are still on the lookout in search of the golden sky. Remember that when you get an interview call while you are in a job, you won’t get sufficient time to prepare for that. So unless you’ve done your homework regarding that particular organization beforehand, chances are you won’t be able to do a good job of it on such quick notice. And in the end, you may blow your chance of getting hired by your dream company.
How can you prepare for a interview in a particular organization? Your best bet is to prepare a SWOT analysis of every firm and the industry it is in. Am I kidding? Who would go to the trouble of asking such stuff in an interview?
The PSO interview panel did just that. I agree it’s not a standard practice, but it can happen, and you don’t want to be caught in an awkward situation in an interview for a firm that you desire to be a part of. Even if the interviewer doesn’t ask for the complete SWOT, your having done the SWOT would enable to tackle any question he may have about his company.
Doing SWOT requires considerable time, which you have in abundance when you unemployed. It becomes a scarce commodity when you get hired, so use it wisely. It’s the surest cure to your unemployment woes.
Finally, don’t make a plan beforehand that you’re going to such and such stuff for this amount of time. Just wake up early, and delve into the first unpleasant thing that comes to your mind. Finish that keeping those juicy incentives in mind and jump on to the next one. Keep doing this until you are almost at the end of the day, and then reward yourself with that thing that kept you going throughout the day. You deserve it now. But remember, in all this mayhem; don’t forget to tune with God a couple of times each day. I may offer you all the wonderfully soothing tips, but your best comfort lies in your spiritual connection with the Divine Power. Without that, you are just going to wither away emotionally, spiritually and even physically no matter how much you keep yourself busy.
Try to do most of the things that I’ve suggested here, and believe me, the next thing you know it would be time for the job that you had been patiently waiting for.
Voltaire
So choose your comparisons wisely. Focus on those people who have GPA or grade higher than yours and still unemployed. That’s the only way to tackle this monster.
In many cases, the more you try to compete, the less competitive you actuallyKathy Sierra
are.
Of course, it’s a different story altogether if everyone is employed and you are the last man standing.
One of the studies quoted in The 100 Simple Secrets of Happy People regarding comparison:
A large group of students was given a word puzzle to solve.
Researchers compared the satisfaction of students who finished
the puzzle quickly or more slowly. Students who finished the
puzzle quickly and compared themselves with the very fastest
students came away feeling dissatisfied with themselves.
Students who finished the puzzle more slowly but compared
themselves with the slowest students came away feeling quite
satisfied with themselves and tended to ignore the presence of
the quick-finishing students.
Lyubomirsky and Ross 1997
What all this means is the root of dissatisfaction is your ability to compare yourself with others. Comparing yourself with examples that make you comfortable about who you are and what you have will go a long way in removing much of the man-made misery in your life.
All said and done, the bulk of your time in any unemployment phase should be spent researching prospective employers, sending customized cover letter and resumes to them, and in some cases following up on them.
I cannot lay enough emphasis on the research part. It’s very much possible that your very first job is not your ideal or dream job, and while you accept that offer, you are still on the lookout in search of the golden sky. Remember that when you get an interview call while you are in a job, you won’t get sufficient time to prepare for that. So unless you’ve done your homework regarding that particular organization beforehand, chances are you won’t be able to do a good job of it on such quick notice. And in the end, you may blow your chance of getting hired by your dream company.
How can you prepare for a interview in a particular organization? Your best bet is to prepare a SWOT analysis of every firm and the industry it is in. Am I kidding? Who would go to the trouble of asking such stuff in an interview?
The PSO interview panel did just that. I agree it’s not a standard practice, but it can happen, and you don’t want to be caught in an awkward situation in an interview for a firm that you desire to be a part of. Even if the interviewer doesn’t ask for the complete SWOT, your having done the SWOT would enable to tackle any question he may have about his company.
Doing SWOT requires considerable time, which you have in abundance when you unemployed. It becomes a scarce commodity when you get hired, so use it wisely. It’s the surest cure to your unemployment woes.
Finally, don’t make a plan beforehand that you’re going to such and such stuff for this amount of time. Just wake up early, and delve into the first unpleasant thing that comes to your mind. Finish that keeping those juicy incentives in mind and jump on to the next one. Keep doing this until you are almost at the end of the day, and then reward yourself with that thing that kept you going throughout the day. You deserve it now. But remember, in all this mayhem; don’t forget to tune with God a couple of times each day. I may offer you all the wonderfully soothing tips, but your best comfort lies in your spiritual connection with the Divine Power. Without that, you are just going to wither away emotionally, spiritually and even physically no matter how much you keep yourself busy.
Try to do most of the things that I’ve suggested here, and believe me, the next thing you know it would be time for the job that you had been patiently waiting for.
Work saves us from three great evils: boredom, vice and need.
Voltaire
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